Everyone, at different times, goes through some life transition, where we take or are pushed to taking a huge step that changes our life beyond what we are prepared for so far.m It may take many different forms: moving to a new place, graduating from school, entering or leaving a relationship, losing a job, starting a job, becoming a parent, retiring and, many others life possibilities. Whether its something you choose and are happy about or if its thrust upon you, this process of change and growth, almost always includes a period of shifting and adjusting to the new, that does not feel at all comfortable.
With these major life transitions, and sometimes even ones that seem like they shouldn’t be such a big deal, the experience is like a metamorphosis from a caterpillar to a butterfly. Our life and identity goes through a major shift and is completely different on the other side. How does a small squirming hungry caterpillar turn into a flying thing of beauty? Well, it actually dissolves its old form within the cocoon to complete liquid out of which the new form is birthed. Does that sound familiar? The feeling of formlessness, feeling like not knowing where the shore is? Not being who you were, but not having a new identity or knowing yet either? This in between place is like a cocoon, a place of great potential and is also very vulnerable.
Support and containment to dream and develop a new way of being, aligned with your deepest values, can be very helpful in moving through this period well and with ease. I can help you create solid ground by assisting you in remembering the skills and internal resources that you have already developed within you and also to help you connect with and build up external support in friends, family, community and in the therapeutic relationship. I can also work with you in creating a bridge from your past to present and future by exploring what you are ready to let go of and what still has value for you, you want to hold onto and build on,
Transitions are times of stress and choices. Giving yourself support and care to create solid foundations for the next stage of your life is good self-care. I hold and honor this as a time of exploring what your own deep knowing is opening up in you life. Then by taking what you’ve learned in the transition and turning it into practical steps towards what you want, so that your life can soar.